Ever wondered why friendships fade?

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I've always questioned the types of friends and friendships going on in my life. Like sometimes I know someone and we really vibe then slowly or suddenly there's no connection between us.
So this prompted me to just randomly do a research on the types of friendships people encounter in life and the 'Seasonal, reason and lifetime' description is what made sense to me. Here's what it entails;

    1. Friends for a season
We all have seasons in life eg joining a new school, starting a new job, shifting to a different environment etc. In all these transitions, you meet a person/people you grow with, learn and explore together then when you 'wrap up' and move to the next level, the friendship no longer feels the same as things start changing from the energies, priorities and also time spent together.

These are the seasonal friends and a good example is the number of friends you had in your earlier stages in life vs now as you advance.

Your priorities changed, purpose and goals became new and some/all of the former bonds you had no longer have a purpose in your new season.
           
    2. Friends for a reason
Ever been in a situation that made you to make new friendships just because of the current state you're in?  It might be your project partner, new neighbor or hommie and given time, your connection clicks and a bond begins to form or grow.

Meeting or having this friend has a reason eg They became your friends because you had a group assignment to work on together or He got to be  your friend because you work at the same place.

Unlike the seasonal friendships, the friendship for a reason gives people chances to discover more bonds that might turn into a lifetime thing.
       

    3. Friends for a lifetime 
These are the unconditional friendships we have. People who stick with us through any situation whether bad or good, are always with us no matter the degree of change that occurs in our/their lives and can be relied on at any point in life.

They are the true and loyal friends that always support us and even if we may conflict with them, forgiveness and reconciliation is easier because you understand and tolerate each other throughout the storm.
           


We all dislike the feeling of loosing a friend or a great bond shared. Understanding the types of friends you have really helps reduce the expectations  you place on people to avoid feelings of betrayal or enemity later on when things begin to change.



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