Part one: THE FEAR!

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We all know the feeling. Being pushed away, unwanted, unaccepted or being told 'no' when we've held high expectations of the people, situations and relationships in our lives.
One thing we can all agree is that rejection hurts and disturbs but the way we handle it differs from person to person.
Due to the past experiences, we tend to develop the fear of being rejected and find ways to avoid the encounter because after all, who would want to be rejected? But what we don't realize is that the fear draws rejection even closer to us.


By trying to avoid rejection, we develop behaviors that we believe will keep us on the safer side. 
The fear comes in when we feel inadequate, different from the majority or the 'normal' or even when we have developed our own scenes of how things should go.

Not recognizing that things, people and situations turn out different, we then try our best to fit into them so that it can turn out to be a perfect piece that fits.
By doing this, we then lose ourselves as we try to paint ourselves 'perfectly' so that we may not be rejected. But the rejection still finds us.

Dealing with the fear:
Knowing that everyone gets rejected at some point in life, it doesn't make you less of who you are. 
Being aware of your worth and fully accepting and loving you for who you are, and understanding that you do not need acceptance for your survival or sanity will help reduce the fear of being rejected


Face the situation as you are and what is for you will always find a way to you.
         #yes or no, life still goes on.



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