Part Three: Why We Get Obsessed With People Who Reject Us.

Ever thought why your mind gets preoccupied and filled with thoughts about someone who rejected you. It's like the more they say no, the greater the need for more and more of them or things associated with them.

After you've been rejected, you always feel the need to prove the other person wrong. You want to show them how good you are and that them rejecting you was a big mistake. Psychologically, it's explained to be as a result of the rejection triggering the part of the human brain that's associated with reward, motivation, addiction and cravings.

It gets harder to accept rejection because you don't want to feel like you are worth being rejected. This leaves you calculating and finding ways to show the other person your great side just to try make them take back their "no".

In this case, it's not the person that you want but the 'feeling' or the 'point' that comes out of knowing that they want us. This greatly explains why the other person becomes so attractive and the desire to be with them gets more intense than before they rejected you.

Knowing your worth and understanding that you are not rejected because you don't deserve the acceptance helps heal this void. 

It's no one's job to make you feel right about yourself or whole again.

This is why having full self-love before looking for love from other people is so important because you never have to struggle with getting approvals from anyone. Whether they reject you or accept you, you know what you can offer as a person and you fully adore you. 

And by this, you'll know that there's always somebody else who will be able to appreciate and see the light in you.

For more on self love, search for Self Love blog at the top of this post.