KNOWING WHEN TO LET GO

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It feels important, but is it worth holding on to? When we have no power to control it, change it or curve it to how we desire but still, we choose to hold on to it hoping that some day it will turn out as we expect it.

"Let me be optimistic" so we tell ourselves for we always heard from the motivational speakers that it is an essential key to achieving our goals because it boosts our courage as we choose to try see an opportunity in every difficulty presented to us.

Sometimes we're forced to let go of things or people we really hold dear and we're left struggling to let go of the pain, regrets, wishes and the 'what if' that comes after.
We have no control over most of these situations but letting go of them will stop them from controlling us.

When we talk of letting go, it's all about the simple to the major things in your life. It could be your work, career, relationship, friends, grief and so much more.

HOW TO KNOW WHEN TO LET GO

✓When you're making alot of compromises and when you weigh the energy you get from it, it's more consuming than motivating.

✓You've lost yourself, your values and what you believe in from all the sacrifices you have to make for things to work.

✓You're not happy.

✓When you no longer feel appreciated and you have to seek your needs elsewhere because they are not met.

✓ When it's hard to express yourself, your opinions or views and when you do, they get swept under the rag.

✓ It's just not worth holding on to.
Letting go is tough and so is holding on when all it does is drain you. Moving on will save your time, energy, emotions and open doors to better things.

HOW TO LET GO

FORGIVE! Even if the other person doesn't apologize, forgiving is a great step to healing and moving on.

Give yourself time to process it all, understand the importance of moving on and start focusing on the present.

Talk about it to another reliable, patient and trustworthy person. Sharing helps free your mind and feelings.

Surround yourself with positive energy, from your loved ones and close friends.

Give yourself space from the person or situation if you need to, to stop the constant reminders and thoughts about the past.











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