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Most of us have been through this, some are actually on this. I can boldly confess I've tried fitting in so many times while growing up. Some worked, some were fatal but it was what it was. So on today's blog I'll be discussing fitting in. Let's first understand what fitting in is: This is where you attempt and do things to get accepted but absolutely not for who you are. Why? Sometimes it's probably because we tend to feel or perceive other people's lifestyles, standards, personalities, words, behavior etc to being better or superior than ours. In turn, we start conforming to the "cool" that we think is best. Judging from experience, being successful in fitting in is a sweet feeling that slowly eats our inside. Our self esteem, beliefs, values, standards and personal rules get broken and put aside to prioritize another person's. The consequences to this are clear and most of them have been highlighted in my previous blogs. You no longe...

This is one thing that I noticed is easier said than done. I always tell myself "I love you" and all the positive affirmations but the actions to prove this aren't that much. Check;  How to know whether you truly love yourself We tend to neglect many things and feelings that we need to prioritize. Sacrificing our self love to fit into other people's 'good books', standards, life, opinions and so many other things forgetting to put ourselves as the first priority. Its important to start investing in ourselves, putting time and effort to get into conversations with ourselves so as to understand and fall deeper in love with who we are. The same things we do as we try to love someone is the same procedure to act on, with yourself. For guides click;  How to love yourself At some point, actualizing self love tends to feel or look selfish and this makes it even harder to accomplish. But this ain't so. Putting you first is important because...

We can all agree that personal standards is a must have in life but first things first; what does having personal standards mean? It is basically the behaviors that you have or decide to set for yourself depending on your life expectations. Personal standards greatly define you as a person as well as the outcome of your life. Some people's standards are high, for some are low and it all depends one's desires. Examples of personal standards This is a great deal for the achievements and success that you expect of yourself and your life and considering this, you should always strive to have high standards at all times. Raising standards has both positive and negative outcomes because you do not expect everything to remain constant as you change certain aspects of your life.  Check  10 things that happen when you raise your standards  .  Even so, you can't just sit there dreaming of becoming a billionaire when you can't shed off the beggars' behavior.  A...

I came across this challenge on YouTube in one of the motivational speeches and tried it. The result was amazing because I ended up feeling relieved. What exactly is  not giving a f*** ? Giving a fuck is basically investing your time, energy, attention, thoughts and feelings on something whether good or bad. Not giving a f*** is exactly the opposite. We all give a fuck about something or someone in our lives. But, sometimes we give attention to so many things and situations even those that do not deserve it. In the end, we end up feeling exhausted and strained then suddenly life becomes less sweeter. Not everything is worth your time or energy or emotions so don't waste your f*** on things that don't add any value!   So this challenge is all about selecting the things that are worth your f*** and not giving a f*** to those that aren't. Carefully select the more important things in your life, focus on them and invest your fuck in them because they are worth it...

  I t's so hard especially at this times to be confident about tomorrow, our next moves or the things we dream of and aspire.  Things and times are so competitive and some seem too big for us at some point. At times I sit and wonder 'what if it never turns out as I want it to?' but in the same wondering I asked myself one thing; What if we all choose to be optimistic, hopeful, positive, inspired and be a walking tank of self belief and confidence? You have an option to choose what to perceive of yourself or your situation. You can decide to think of great things only and believe nothing bad can ever happen to you or think the very opposite of it all. It's often said that you can never change the happenings at certain times in your life but, you can choose to stay positive and optimistic about your situation whether good or bad See ways to stay positive I CHOOSE POSITIVITY is a challenge to yourself and your life, to always strive to...

Hey ! I'm glad you decided to visit Simply It. I'm Audrey Nekesa and this is basically a personal blog where I share my thoughts, views and experiences as well as discoveries in life.