Part two: LOVE REJECTION!!

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I don't love you, I don't think this is going to work, I love someone else, I just see you as a good friend.

Such statements are almost like death announcements. Someone you've admired, crushed on and felt strongly attracted to, to the point where you feel they are that one piece that has been missing in your life. Only to get a response that places you in a completely different lane and leaves you feeling so undesirable. 

Love Rejection hurts and the worst part is that there's nothing you can do to change the other person's point of view.
The worst thing to do to yourself is turning the blame on you by questioning your personality,physical appearance and lifestyle which greatly damages your self esteem.


Bitter truth: They won't love you the same way or as you want them to so start getting over it! 


How to deal with it:

1. It's not your fault:  One important thing to note is that  being rejected has nothing to do with you. There are a lot of reasons from the other person's side and them falling out of love with you or failing to feel the same doesn't mean it's because of who you are or what you did not do.

2. Accept the hurt: You have to face the pain and acknowledge that you feel hurt and you need to heal. Rejection is never easy and therefore feeling the pain is normal and should be nursed just like we do with our physical wounds.

3. Give you time: healing is a process and takes time. You have to give yourself enough time to deal with the hurt. From processing the pain to living with it until it fades away.

4. Talk to someone about it: opening up to a person you trust about how you feel and the pain you're experiencing helps get it out of your chest.

5. Find something to do: this will distract you off the disappointment world and atleast give you other things to think of or prioritize than the pain alone.


Being rejected is just an indication that what you're chasing isn't for you and is a redirection because you'd be missing the bigger reward that is meant for you and that is just the right one for you. 
When someone fails to recognize the light in you, don't put it off. Keep on shinning and you'll be appreciated by those who will notice the brightness of your light.
    #yes or no, life still goes on.

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